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ADHD looks like something it isn't!

Most people respond to ADHD based on what it looks like. What does it look like? Well…it typically looks like

  • Time management issues

  • Organization problems

  • Emotional reactivity

  • Hyperactivity

  • etc...

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Now I KNOW you have come across situations like this before - so just reflect for a minute...

Think of a time that you have had with an individual who has been able to sit down and focus on the task so great and get that thing done in 30 minutes!!


But  THEN….. you set up the EXACT same environment and try to recreate the “30 minute get the thing done”. But it doesn’t happen. That individual struuuuuggles (so!much!) to provide the same output they did before.

So yeah this looks like the individual has chosen to not focus and get the task done. It looks like bad character and bad choices.

And since it can look like bad character and bad choices you will ALWAYS respond by trying to change the character and choices.

But this response (this path) will always carry the tone of shame and blame

The longer you stay on the path of shame and blame, the deeper the shame and blame wounds become.

What does shame sound like in the ADHD realm?

  • “You shouldn’t be the kind of person that acts and behaves like that, you need to be a better person”

What does blame sound like?

  • “You are at fault for choosing to not do those actions and behaviors that you know will help you get the task done!”​

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BUT!!!! ADHD symptoms are NOT ADHD
They merely indicate the existence of ADHD

So lets talk about symptoms. WHAT ARE “Symptoms”

By definition oxford dictionary:


a sign of the existence of something, especially of an undesirable situation.


The symptoms of a broken bone:

  • Pain, swelling, bruising, heat/hot to the touch,

These symptoms tell us there is a broken bone, These symptoms are not the broken bone.

  • Ice for inflammation, pain meds for pain, immobilization for the bone etc (we help the symptoms as we treat the cause of the symptoms)

Now what are the symptoms of ADHD

The main signs of inattentiveness are:

  • having a short attention span and being easily distracted

  • making careless mistakes – for example, in schoolwork

  • appearing forgetful or losing things

  • being unable to stick to tasks that are tedious or time-consuming

  • appearing to be unable to listen to or carry out instructions

  • constantly changing activity or task

  • having difficulty organizing tasks

The main signs hyperactivity and impulsiveness are:

  • being unable to sit still, especially in calm or quiet surroundings

  • constantly fidgeting

  • being unable to concentrate on tasks

  • excessive physical movement

  • excessive talking

  • being unable to wait their turn

  • acting without thinking

  • interrupting conversations

  • little or no sense of danger

  • racing thoughts


These symptoms (that are very often misunderstood and not often an extensive list) are the symptoms of ADHD. They tell you there is a difference in the brain. THEY ARE NOT THE ADHD

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